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JOKER JACKET: MISFIT MAKINGS

Let's just jump into this. I think we've all had relationships that started out so very promising and we all hear those words from one party. Either you say them or you hear them but the words sound something like this "Don't compare me to everybody else." or "Don't make me pay for what they did." or better yet, this one which is my personal favorite "I think me and you both know I'm not like them". If you're anything like me then you probably roll your eyes when you hear any variation of that and here's the freakin truth of the whole matter.

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JOKER JACKET: MISFIT MAKINGS

If you are with someone past the age of 15 then you will probably be dealing with some level of damage and that's not anything really to be ashamed of. If you love right then you will be left with scars. Even if you're one of those freak stories of "I married my high school sweetheart", even they will cause a scar or two along the way. That's just the nature of love. But what I've found to be true is that if I am having issues of fear come up that is not just because I'm scarred it means that something that you're doing is reminiscent of something that I've already experienced. The truth of the matter is if you choose to love me then you are somewhat responsible for the way you make me feel. Only you can show that you're not "them". I'm not really a self sabotager at least not in the way that I "run from love". That's not my thing. I kind of wish it was because I'd probably have fewer horror stories but unfortunately I'm a sucker for love. I don't forget what I've been through and I start having tremors when things begin to resemble former traumas. If you really aren't a reincarnation of nightmares past then it really will be evident. So if I'm having continued tremors chances are you're not as fautless as you think. Per example, if you've dealt with a selfish person before it is possible to deal with another person who is indeed selfish it's just that their reasons for being selfish are different or there selfishness stems from a different place. Some people are just used to being alone so being selfish is apart of them because they're not used to to sharing themselves. Sometimes you show up in peoples lives before they were ready. While you were a delightful intrusion they were not prepared for you. Ever had people come over and your house was a mess? Its not that you didn't want the visitors or house guest, it's just that your house wasn't prepared. So the triggering of old memories does not always mean you're not healed sometimes it just means it feels similar and contrary to popular belief the responsibility to see them differently is not totally on you. There is a responsibility to actually be different. Trying to make a person feel like it's all them and that they're not okay is a form of manipulation if you actually have traits of the predecessors.

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JOKER JACKET: MISFIT MAKINGS

This isn't a shady blog post today believe it or not. I just want you to take inventory. If you're a person who assumes everything and everyone is the same, Don't. Speaking as someone who has been unconsumably burned by love the truth still is that it's not good for man to be alone and if it's something you desire don't let wreckage stop you from believing. If you're on the other side of this then just make sure you're playing you're part. Love is a two laned street. It's our job to help the other person feel loved and secure. It's your job everyday to wake up and make that other person feel the love you hold for them. If there are ways or areas where you can do better than do it please. Nobody is reading this but you, if this has found you today just do better. I'm not even asking you to apologize and let the other party know, just do better, PERIOD. Alas if you're being manipulated, I can tell you as someone who has been with a FEW (and the fact that I've made "few" all caps should tell you that it was more than a few) manipulative people, they DO NOT stop being manipulative and their manipulation grows with time. Feelings are not a crime but letting them control you is (or at least it should be lol). You can have better but in relationships that's a two man job. Vow to work together please.