I DON'T WANT NOBODY ELSE BUT YOU

JACKET: MISFITMAKINGS

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I remember when that song came out a couple years ago. I'm not sure how I heard it. I must've been in the car with somebody who had the radio on because I don't ever listen to the radio. Regardless when I heard the song I was instantly in love. I love the hook. The way the beat drops out and it almost just sounds like a clock ticking, which is extremely appropriate for the subject matter of the song, and Trey just singing "I don't want nobody else buy you" #puremagic

When I zoned in on the words of what I would call the pre chorus (amazing how that's a regular thing now and that's no shade. I have a few songs that break song writing protocol ;D) He says: I know a lot of men would do you better Know that I done put you through Whatever

Then he continues on to say my favorite part of the song: Real One, I guess I'm just a fool with her Looking in the mirror like, aint you scared to lose her? Why you acting like another man wouldn't choose her? You know she the only true girl, ooh girl

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JACKET: MISFITMAKINGS

My love for the lyrics is extremely personal and listening to it is like sitting down and listening to a handsome, successful man help explain to you that he knows you're the one but also explaining that he's just an idiot.

I came up in the era where if a man met a chick that was attractive and a rider, even if that man wasn't ready to settle down he was smart enough to know that he wouldn't find another one of "those" and he would shut everything down for her because losing her was not a risk worth taking. They understood value. That, however, is no longer the case. I think social media has just made everything to accessible and in my personal opinion, had a direct effect on relationships. In relationships now I don't seek to be right I just seek to understand and this song provides clarity for the repeated offense in my love life.

I have REPEATEDLY been asked why am I still single? What's wrong with you? There has got to be something I'm not seeing. They go on to figure out that it's not a smoke screen because I've never learned how to fake or be phony and then after a few weeks or months depending on the man, without argument or fall out, they disappear. And if you don't know any better you will try to figure out what is wrong with you. Nothing wrong with that because if it's something that you're doing you would rather know so you can work on it unless you're haughty and those women seem to be winning so ain't even anything I can say LOL. But this is where my love for this song comes in. It was the comfort in knowing that a few of them are aware that they are tearing up something dope with no rhyme or reason. In their personal quiet moments they know you are everything and nothing compares but there's just not a discipline to be consistent with something that may take more work but yields fruit. Fruitless deeds are easier.

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JACKET: MISFITMAKINGS

Said all that to say that I am a lot softer in my relationships than anyone would even believe. I notoriously am willing to squash and start all over especially if we saw a time together where everything really was dope and you made me feel like I mattered to you. That is worth fighting for because that has not always been the case but here is the part of the story that you have to be cognoscente of. He whomever he may be is not the only catch in this scenario. He is not the only person worth fighting for and if he is not aware of that or if he is but is unwilling to display the consistency that would support that and get in the ring with you to fight for this then baby it's actually not worth it. It's okay if he doesn't want to shut everything down for you because it's not a reflection of your worth, sometimes it's just a revelation of where they are. You can't make that man value you in the way you desire. You also can't tolerate the undervalue either. In Usher's song "FWM" he says: Ima Be Real With You Now, I Don't Know Why I Called Her I Know That I Was Wrong So That's Why I Brought Cha.......

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JACKET: MISFITMAKINGS

Sometimes they don't know why they do what they do and that's what you have to understand. That's not for you to put on your overalls and play mechanic it's for you to say okay and leave peacefully. I've spent decades worth of time trying to hang in there until they love me the way I need and what's terrible is for some of them that was their best, it's just not good enough for me and that's okay because I pull no punches when I love so you shall not pull them on me. And this is not a sexist post because the game has changed and these women are ground breakingly shocking LOL and ain't no cap in that LOL! Whether you're the male or the female coming to understand these dynamics, just know it's okay. When you choose your value, it's not your loss and choosing it is your personal gain and we will toast to that. I've learned to look them in they face and say I Don't Want Nobody Else But You and then take my sexy self and pivot and walk clean smooth away. Next Stop????? VALUE!

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